In our jaded, overly desensitized and out-of-touch society, it's far too easy to judge others based solely on appearances.
I find it painfully and astonishingly ironic that we're in the so-called "social" age, because as an empathic woman who deeply craves profound connection, I see very few genuine social interactions happening.
In fact, I find it downright lonely most days.
The digital space is often full of shiny and sparkly. Lots of glitz and little substance.
In the spiritual community, we try to squash any sort of negative emotions immediately. We pounce on them like wild predators, and devour them like our victory dinner because we've successfully "shielded" ourselves from them.
I CALL BULLSHIT.
Trying to numb, squash or wish-away negative thoughts and emotions is exactly why we have addictions in the world. We aren't addicted to the thing itself - we're addicted to how it makes us feel. When we're in pain, we want to do anything to feel better in the moment.
Because of our need to avoid "bad" feelings, spirituality has become a quasi drug for many of us, because there is a convoluted misconception that negative emotions and feelings are not healthy. That they must be avoided at all costs - kinda like gluten and missing yoga for a day.
No, we mustn't be slaves to negative vibes from others.
We can honor our boundaries and not interact with such people. But people who are negative all the time help us grow by giving us opportunities to be even more loving and compassionate.
Being enlightened, spiritually conscious and awakened means you COMPLETELY (as in, wholly) accept yourself as the Creator of All does. If we were not meant to experience or feel any negativity whatsoever, we wouldn't have been created with the capacity to feel the emotions associated with being hurt, betrayed, violated, etc.
There needs to be profound acceptance of the shadow with the light.
There's a difference between living with a victim mindset and just feeling lousy all time versus giving yourself the freedom and permission to be a feeling HUMAN.
Let the tears flow, dammit.
Let your heart break open fully, so that it can heal and renew itself.
Feel your feelings, and make no apologies.
No one is promised tomorrow.
I'm not saying this to trigger fear, but I think we can all agree that none of us are escaping death. That's a reality for us.
So again I say, no one is promised tomorrow.
Make the most of today.
Please put the phone down and actually listen to and HEAR what your partner is trying to communicate to you.
Call your friend. She needs you.
Show kindness to strangers - because while our Egos like to believe we know all about a person just by looking at them, we sure as hell DO NOT. That person who is always smiling and seems so happy on the outside might be ready to call it quits on life.
So take the time to let them go first in the aisle at the grocery store, let them take the last doughnut, or go really nuts and buy them a coffee.
Love is a choice.
We can choose it every single day.
We choose to be loving or not.
I hope you do choose love.
And I hope you begin with yourself.
Dani Turcotte is a Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Practicing Witch, Intuitive Wealth Mindset Coach, Psychic, and Medium. She is full of passion for helping people ignite their greatness through emotional healing and experience TRUE abundance on every level! She empowers people around the globe to operate from prosperity consciousness and become masterful co-creators with the Universe. Dani has been featured on iHeart Radio and is currently working on her first autobiographical book.