Do you often feel drained interacting with certain people (especially in group settings)?
Are you extremely aware of the energy of people, and "feel" their moods even if they don't say a word?
How about when you walk into a room? Do you feel a certain "vibe"?
Do you get really emotionally attached to people? How about fictional people (characters) in movies/on TV?
Are you highly intuitive?
Do you feel dizzy and nauseated? A lot?
Do people tell you that you're too sensitive?
Do you need time to yourself every day so you can decompress and center yourself, especially after interacting with people?
Are shopping malls the Fifth Circle of Hell in your world?
If you answered yes to most of the questions, you're very likely an empath.
And this is actually a great thing. I'm totally serious.
Growing up, everyone around me always told me that I was "too sensitive" and needed to toughen up. And of course being a young child when I first started hearing this, I assumed that part of me was "wrong", since people were telling me to fix this apparently major character flaw.
What I didn't know then was that my extremely sensitive nature is a miraculous gift. Being an empath allows me to connect with other people on profoundly deep levels - something I do not take lightly.
My empathic nature allows me to be a great nurturer for my clients, family, and friends. It helps me to connect with people and actually feel their emotions, even if no words are spoken. This gift extends to animals and even fictional characters on the screen. And I may or may not be known to cry during Windex commercials. Don't ask.
As a child, this was not perceived as a gift by others in my family; it was something broken inside me that needed fixing. And it certainly did not feel like a gift back then!
So naturally, I did everything possible to correct this flaw:
But guess what?
None of that shit worked, obviously.
I couldn't fix what wasn't broken. My sensitivity (and yours!) is NOT a character flaw. You are not broken. Let me repeat that : YOU ARE NOT BROKEN.
Empaths are amazing healers, outstanding friends, and incredibly vital for facilitating positive change in the world. But in order to be all of that, we need to take care of ourselves.
The more you try to deny this part of yourself or harden it to appease the world, the more suffering you will experience. Trust me, I know all to well how powerful emotions are when it comes to the health of our bodies.
By trying to be someone I'm not (hardened and desensitized), I created so much unrest in my body, and have had over a decade of serious health issues as a result.
Resist the urge to check out and toughen up. You can unplug your energy from things that drain you (I encourage you to do that), but please don't try to shut off this wonderful gift.
The world needs you. Now more than ever.
That doesn't mean you need to take on the world's burdens as your own (please don't), but use your gift to help lead others toward healing. I know it's tempting to allow the darkness of the world to consume you (because, #empathproblems), but you MUST take care of your own heart, soul, and energy first.
If you don't, you will feel like you're drowning in problems and feelings that might not even belong to you. You do NOT have to absorb anything you don't want to.
Spend time around people that light you up, get out in nature, have sex, take bubble baths, laugh, cry, and enjoy the hell out of your life!
You are not cursed.
You are not broken.
And you are absolutely everything you're supposed to be.
Dani Turcotte is a Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master, Practicing Witch, Intuitive Wealth Mindset Coach, Psychic, and Medium. She is full of passion for helping people ignite their greatness through emotional healing and experience TRUE abundance on every level! She empowers people around the globe to operate from prosperity consciousness and become masterful co-creators with the Universe. Dani has been featured on iHeart Radio and is currently working on her first autobiographical book.